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ZetaTalk: JonBenet Ramsey
Note: written on Aug 15, 2001

The reports about the sexual molestation and subsequent murder of a child do not seem to die not because it is unusual or has great impact on world events, but because it is so obvious who committed the crime and there is a fascination that the parents are forever being let off the hook. The child showed physical evidence of being repeatedly molested. How could an intruder accomplish that? The ransom note was in the mother’s handwriting. Why would she write such a note, unless as part of a cover-up? The house was under a security system that would prevent an intruder, and no such activity was noticed by the neighbors. The child was in a competitive position with the mother, dressed up to look like a woman, complete with red lipstick, and entered into beauty contests. This was done by the mother herself, to make the child an extension of herself, but not done without resentment toward the child and the opportunities stretching out before such a young beauty.

What happens in cases where the children in a family are sexually molested, repeatedly, and the mother is supposedly ignorant? The mother is not ignorant, but is a participant! She is prissy, has been asked to perform acts that disgust or disturb her, or is trying to hold onto her own sexual response, repressing this, so wants to avoid contact. It is not uncommon for the mother to have been raised in a strict religious environment that threatened punishment of any sexual thoughts or actions, so complete sexual repression was the goal. When the father begins to molest the children, who are most often too young to resist or understand their options, there is a conflicting set of emotions in the mother. She is relieved, because she now is let off the hook, but at the same time she is horrified. Horrific circumstances can result in denial, especially in a guilty party. The mother understands her role, and though in pain prefers to pretend the molestation did not occur, or occurred only because the child incited it and thus deserved it.

The Ramsy case is cycled in the news media, especially in the scandal rags, because it sells. It sells because the reader is wondering how long it is going to take before the obviously guilty parents are brought to justice. They are wealthy, bought and intimidated the local police into cooperation by their contributions to causes in the area or threats of legal action, as they could afford lawyers aplenty during any challenge. The local police, having failed to press when the evidence was hot, are likewise now in a conflict situation. They deny any wrongdoing, vehemently, thus preventing prosecution. The parents appear on TV, holding hands and acting like angels, shocking the subconscious of the public who senses otherwise. Why does justice take so long? In part because of the commonality in households throughout the world. Children are vulnerable, cannot fight back when the perpetrator is the parent, and are thus the first object when the father’s resentment toward his prissy wife reaches the boiling point. Each prosecutor knows of situations within his extended family or neighborhood or circle of friends where molestation of this sort is suspected. Eyebrows are raised, jaws set in anger, but no actions are taken. The victims, being told they asked for their treatment, are bad, are getting what they deserved, are hardly likely to point an accusing finger. The victims have been convinced they are the criminal, and have gone into hiding with their parents, into face-saving denial, and silence.

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